You were told to make a list of qualities that you seek in a partner. You wrote the list down or just remembered it in your head. The list is long and detailed.
This same person, who you chose to live with according to the list, now seems to be nothing like the one you connected to.
Observe what is happening in your relationship
There are disagreements. There are money issues. He watches TV. You don't speak anymore. She is bossy. You feel hurt. One of you is afraid to make a commitment. You are bored and you constantly blame each other. There are power games. He is bald.
How could you have been so mistaken?
In Hindi philosophy the word "Maya" means illusion. When our mind is busy judging our self and the other, it is impossible to see what is true anymore.
When you remember "the moment" you knew that you wanted to share your life with this person, how did you feel then?
We have been taught how to think ahead, to make plans and yet we have forgotten how to feel.
What is the secret to loving and supportive relationships?
John Lennon said:"Life is what happens while you are making other plans".
When we stick to ideals and beliefs that no longer serve us we become weighed down.
Even when we still feel deep love for our partners, we become blind. When we hit that wall, instead of understanding that there are underlying issues that can be solved, we just hit the wall again and again until we are so exhausted that we are prepared to give up.
Conflict resolution, life satisfaction, communication skills and how to maintain fulfilling relationships are learned behaviors.
Can I do this alone?
This is when relationship coaching comes in. Allow yourself to be supported and guided by an expert who has the experience to first clear up the confusion, to give you practical advice on how to put the methods into operation and lead you to a path of love, respect and joy together.
Breathe new life into your Relationship.
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